My son and I face a miserable new year while husband has fun on vacation
DEAR DEIDRE: My son and I are facing another miserable New Year while my husband is having fun on a ski vacation.
I am a 41 year old female and my partner is 45 years old.
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We haven’t had a break since the birth of my son, but my other half leaves every year with his friends in France on Boxing Day.
They stay until after the New Year.
Our boy is nine years old and he is not confident.
He gets angry when his father is not at home.
This year there are additional complications as we are moving and my son is entering a new school in January. He is full of anxiety about it.
I asked my husband if he could postpone his trip but all his friends are single and they don’t want to change what they have been doing for years.
My son already says how nervous he is and always dreads Christmas because it’s just a fun day in our house.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It might be too late to rearrange your husband’s vacation now, but you can ask him to come back in time for your son to start his new school.
If you think Boxing Day will be boring for your son, make sure you’ve arranged things that he’ll enjoy – maybe seeing other family or friends.
If that is not possible, charities still need volunteers, especially at Christmas and some will allow children to help with a responsible adult.
It’s rewarding and can boost her confidence.
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